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  • psyconomics 20:05 on April 10, 2012 Permalink | Reply
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    Look at the bright side of life for your psyconomics 

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    We might have the habit of hate the way we look or we might be critical of our mate and look for possible solutions by changing our looks, our work or seek for divorce instead of looking into ourselves for the solution of our discontentment.

    In this I am not saying that it is the best thing to chew everything and go on being a floor mat at work or in your marriage or to accept that some body body part of yours might be out of line and that makes you unhappy and discontent.

    It is more important to take action on your discontentment first and then to find out if the problems at work, at home or possible deviance in your look are the root of a problem.

    Make a list of three things you like the most about yourself. Are these things about your look, your performance at work or in your marriage? Probably it is not.

    When people are doing their self-assessment they look for their personality and things that make themselves happy. But the culture is sending different message.  It is about how good and sexy you look, how clever you are at work and how sexy and romantic you are in your marriage. The culture is looking for the wrapping paper but not the content, but we ourselves measure things from the content and at the same time we want to live up to the standard of the wrapping paper.

    You can train yourself in assess yourself and your looks by define your own criteria for what is positive about you. It is most important that your inner criteria is valued and cherished by your own standard. This inner criteria has take into the fact what matters to you the most and what and how much you want to please others comes second.

    Perfectionism can be your worst enemy. Beauty is not about big breasts or love is not about please your mate whatever. To fall short in one department and your whole self-image is down the drain is the pitfall of the perfectionist. Train yourself by choose one or two things that you like about yourself and focus on those. Different things at work and at home. It helps you to keep up your spirits and at same time is a great weapon in building up a good self-trust. You measure yourself by your inner means but not the ever differencing criteria other people have on the matter.

    Image your own self good by putting your best face forward. Promote your value at work or in your marriage and stay by that and boost it f.i by wearing something sexy or tell when you have done a good job.

    If things are not improving and you find that whatever you do to is not releasing the pressure you find from your environment, you might go for more drastic moves, but such a move is not to improve other people contentment or to solve your own discontentment or unhappiness, rather to improve your own contentment. That is the way to well earned wellness.

    Bjorn Vernhardsson psychologist

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  • psyconomics 10:33 on January 27, 2012 Permalink | Reply
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    Myth is faith if you believe in it. Use the power of positive faith. 

    Self assurance and a faith or a myth have a similar train of thought. Good self assurance helps us to finish what we originally set out to do. So how can you use myth and faith to help you to fare better?

    Favorable assumptions can brighten up your day, assumptions such as: if we assist others, especially the needy, it will bring luck to us. It might or might not. But if you do and you believe in this myth, it will color your life in positive way for you and the society. It will gradually build up your self assurance and at same time build up trust to the society. You will gradually wind up in more and more positive situation, just because of your positive attitude towards yourself and the society.

    If you are occupied with bad luck like the ”Friday the 13th“, then you might be blocking your ways in life. There has been no scientific proof on that one and belie in it is not helpful for you. On the contrary it can be damaging for you and isolate you from others at given time.

    ”Good Morning“ is a wishful thinking from you to others every day. This is unconditioned wish from you to your workmates, friends or family that they will ”have a nice day“. May the luck be with you.

    So look out for lucky things and give the luck a chance. Maybe or maybe not. If the luck is coming your way, then you will profit from it. If not, then there was nothing you could do about that. Positive myths are there for you to use every day to spice up your life and give you sense of self worth and contentment. Positive self worth is a proven assistance in all matters.

    Bjorn Vernhardsson pyschologist

     
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