What I want, need and must
Leg of lamb. Picture by: UnnarYmir
Three words do explain whether relationship is either future or past orientated. It is about how your inner needs will interact with other people. Your needs are the basic precursor for what you want. Your need for food might surface as a pizza or at Christmas or as a leg of lamb. Your needs do determine your wants. If you are occupied and rigid in your wants you will be under the spell of the past, instead of being understanding of your basic needs that will bring you flexibility and acceptance for your wants. Understanding your needs will keep you content instead of being a prisoner of your wants.
When two people have something in common, then their needs will harmonize. They both will let their inner needs to govern their attitude but not focus on how their needs will materialize in wants and expectations towards others. As they do not impose their needs onto each other, then they want similar solutions and the future is theirs together. They will build a life based on hope and acceptance and their life will be full of anticipation and things they look forward to. Their willingness to accept and respect each other is based on their vision of their inner needs and fulfillment in a accordance to their partners needs. They understand and respect others contentment and find how much that contributes to their own contentment. They do not expect others to fulfill what they want.
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