Are you past or future oriented person

The Last of the Spirits, from Charles Dickens:...

The Last of the Spirits, from Charles Dickens: A Christmas Carol. In Prose. Being a Ghost Story of Christmas. With Illustrations by John Leech. London: Chapman & Hall, 1843. First edition. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Understanding the past or the future is a task for every moment to validate.

If you are content and your needs are fulfilled you are in the present and you are open for hope and the future to be.

If you are occupied by your wants and how to see them materialize, then you are diverting your focus to the past, as the outer world is an incoming past for you and your inner need.

Of course we need to accept the fact that we need food and shelter for our survival, but apart from that we have psychological inner needs that have to be attended to if we want to be happy and content.

The more we recognize and respect our inner needs and accept how these realize as our wants, the more we will be able to control our vision for the future instead of being occupied by the materialization of the wants. And we will not impose our wants upon others, as it will in the end destroy our relationship. The past will take over in your communication as your wants will be must for others to oblige, and your needs will be for others to fulfill and your happiness will be for others to fix and your contentment will rely on outer environment instead of your inner peace. Gradually your life will evolve around the past, other people and things.

Your inner peace can only be worked by you acknowledge and respect your inner need. To accept your inner needs are not easily changed, but your attitude towards your needs can easily be changed.  The acceptance of your inner needs, will make it easier to understand others people needs and to respect those and accept as they are.

The solution is not to be occupied by your wants as that in the end will make you past orientated instead of future orientated. The more you understand how your contentment is attained will make you ready to accept what might be in the future to be.

Bjorn Vernhardsson psychologist

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